If you and your ex have recently divorced, and there are children involved, you need to learn how to co-parent successfully. The challenge is that emotions are often still raw, and it can be hard to work together to care for your children.
According to Healthline, parents who can cooperate while co-parenting have children with fewer behavioral problems than those raised by antagonistic co-parents or single parents. Even if you and your ex do not get along, there are some things to keep in mind that may make things easier.
1. Put the child’s needs first
No matter how you feel about each other, you need to place focus on your children. This means putting aside anger about the past and doing what is best for your young ones.
Communication is key for successful co-parenting. You need to discuss schedules, pick-up times, vacations, and any issues that your children may be having. Communicating directly is important, although you can text or email if talking is too difficult. Keep communications respectful, clear and to the point. Also, practice active listening skills.
3. Set schedules early on
Kids do best when on a routine. Figure out a set schedule that works for everyone, knowing that you can change it if need be. You should also discuss holidays, school breaks and vacations early on.
There will be times when you do not agree with your ex, and vice versa, and compromise is imperative in these times. Consider what is best for the children and then come up with a solution that, while it may not be ideal, you will be ok with.
5. Team up when necessary
WebMD discusses that showing a united front as parents is important, even if one, or both of you, remarries. This may mean agreeing to, and sticking with, a certain type of discipline, or working with a child who is struggling academically. This shows the children that you both love and care for them, and that they cannot get away with certain things when they are living with one of their parents.