If your marriage is unsustainable, divorce is probably the only answer. On the other hand, it is not a decision that you should take lightly given the life-changing consequences for your entire family.
It is normal to feel confused or ambivalent about divorce. However, according to Psychology Today, you must find clarity about your decision before you broach the subject to your spouse. Here are some considerations you should make as part of the decision-making and preparation process.
What keeps you in the marriage
You may still be in love with your spouse and entertain some hope of salvaging the relationship. On the other hand, you may have fear or uncertainty about a post-divorce future that prevents you from committing to the decision despite a firm belief that the marriage is over.
How the divorce will affect your children
You should have a realistic idea of how your divorce is likely to affect your children’s lives. Some parents have an exaggerated idea of the negative effects of divorce on their children. Living with parental conflict is often much more harmful in the long term. On the other hand, some parents underestimate the potential damage that their divorce could do to their children. You should know what you need to do to protect them from this outcome.
What challenges you can expect to face
You probably anticipate that your life will change after divorce. However, the changes may occur in ways you do not expect. Prior to a divorce, it is difficult to predict the exact challenges you will face in the interest of preparing yourself for them.
Going to a therapist for counseling can help you to find the clarity you need about your decision before you can discuss the issue with your spouse.